Its been awhile since I saw this screen, but I thought I should post something since I have some free time. Working 5 days a week and going for classes in the weekends are really sapping all of my energy, and not to mention time. I hardly do anything else than go to classes. Note to self- don't enroll for 4 subjects next time because it will really screw you. I don't mean that in a bad or detrimental way; its just that time management goes out the window. I honestly don't even have time for myself let alone others!! I underestimated about assignments for CIM, and it seems much harder. But I suppose that will make you work even harder to meet those standards and in the process have better exposure.
Things at home are quite not what I want it to be. Dad is losing control of my brother who although going to be 22 this year hardly acts his age. To make things worse mum does all the work and excuses him from almost all chores- some which I did at a very young age. Responsibility is something very lacking in him, and God knows how he will fix it. Whenever I ask him about something related to the house all he says is "I don't know". So, there is no point in asking him about anything!! On the other side, he's religious and can focus on anything if he wants to, but lacks practicality. I blame both my parents for how he has been brought up. Period.
Have you know a person studying for an exam not knowing when the exam will be held?!? Your guess is as good as mine..
I think when your the elder son parents seem to put more effort into training you in things they think are important. I remember running errands for mum since the time I was about 6 years old; that's because I was the other guy after dad. I didn't complain about it (maybe sometimes when I realised my brother was doing nothing) too much and instead did what I was told. In retrospect I liked being given responsibility because for some reason it made me feel good. I don't know if its in my genetics or not, but its a part of me. When it comes to the second son I think parents take it a bit easy. This is very relative depending on each family.
As a result of this some important things are still done by my parents and myself. I've tried to explain to him so many times but it has failed. He suddenly turns aggressive and verbally lashes out at people. He can't take criticism properly and always has something to say as an excuse; even recalling trivial incidents of the past which are quite insignificant to support his arguments. Obviously, it causes a lot of stress to both mum and dad because assurance of completing a task assigned to my brother is hardly ever guaranteed. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but at least I get the job done.
Halfway through school he changed tremendously and even changed his set of friends. Now, he is left with only a handful of people. There is this tendency where he can't tolerate people and their different behaviours. As a consequence, he would not associate such people even those who have been his school friends for a long time. People have said my brother and I are worlds apart. I admit, its very true. It has come to an extent where people known to both of us have asked me "what's wrong with your bro?" People in this list include mutual friends, uncles, aunties and other acquaintances.
To be very frank we don't even have a relationship that other siblings have with each other. Most of the time we end up fighting over some useless issue and get worked up over nothing. At times I'm a little envious of people who have good relationships with their brothers and sisters. Hey, I'm human after all ok!! To be really honest... we hardly ever talk to each other though living under the same roof. Sad as it may sound its the truth and I can't ignore it.
I've tried to reach out to him so many times and have failed in each attempt. Now, I don't want to try anymore. If it was a machine things would have ended much better, but how will it turn out for my brother?!?
Things at home are quite not what I want it to be. Dad is losing control of my brother who although going to be 22 this year hardly acts his age. To make things worse mum does all the work and excuses him from almost all chores- some which I did at a very young age. Responsibility is something very lacking in him, and God knows how he will fix it. Whenever I ask him about something related to the house all he says is "I don't know". So, there is no point in asking him about anything!! On the other side, he's religious and can focus on anything if he wants to, but lacks practicality. I blame both my parents for how he has been brought up. Period.
Have you know a person studying for an exam not knowing when the exam will be held?!? Your guess is as good as mine..
I think when your the elder son parents seem to put more effort into training you in things they think are important. I remember running errands for mum since the time I was about 6 years old; that's because I was the other guy after dad. I didn't complain about it (maybe sometimes when I realised my brother was doing nothing) too much and instead did what I was told. In retrospect I liked being given responsibility because for some reason it made me feel good. I don't know if its in my genetics or not, but its a part of me. When it comes to the second son I think parents take it a bit easy. This is very relative depending on each family.
As a result of this some important things are still done by my parents and myself. I've tried to explain to him so many times but it has failed. He suddenly turns aggressive and verbally lashes out at people. He can't take criticism properly and always has something to say as an excuse; even recalling trivial incidents of the past which are quite insignificant to support his arguments. Obviously, it causes a lot of stress to both mum and dad because assurance of completing a task assigned to my brother is hardly ever guaranteed. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but at least I get the job done.
Halfway through school he changed tremendously and even changed his set of friends. Now, he is left with only a handful of people. There is this tendency where he can't tolerate people and their different behaviours. As a consequence, he would not associate such people even those who have been his school friends for a long time. People have said my brother and I are worlds apart. I admit, its very true. It has come to an extent where people known to both of us have asked me "what's wrong with your bro?" People in this list include mutual friends, uncles, aunties and other acquaintances.
To be very frank we don't even have a relationship that other siblings have with each other. Most of the time we end up fighting over some useless issue and get worked up over nothing. At times I'm a little envious of people who have good relationships with their brothers and sisters. Hey, I'm human after all ok!! To be really honest... we hardly ever talk to each other though living under the same roof. Sad as it may sound its the truth and I can't ignore it.
I've tried to reach out to him so many times and have failed in each attempt. Now, I don't want to try anymore. If it was a machine things would have ended much better, but how will it turn out for my brother?!?